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Sunday, September 2, 2012
hope solo...
It might be a bit premature to write the token Hope Solo blog since I haven't read her book yet. Maybe I don't have the whole picture, but since following the US women's national soccer team (USWNT) for the last 15-20 years (and by follow I mean occasionally obsess and/or stalk) I've followed her career from the beginning and had to insert my opinion after so much criticism over the last five years.
Solo is most known for controversy when I probably appreciate her most for her goalkeeping abilities. A year older than me, I was trying to wrap up high school when Hope was finishing her freshman year of college and earning her first cap (appearance) with the full USWNT in 2000. She was an alternate for the 2004 Olympic team before really becoming the starting keeper in 2005. I'm not sure anyone really knew who she was until the 2007 World Cup. Her father passed away just before the tournament and Solo dedicated the tournament to him earning some press. Things really went crazy when former USWNT head coach Greg Ryan benched Solo for the semifinal versus Brazil in favor of Briana Scurry. Brazil had their way with the USWNT that day as they rolled to a 4-0 win and Solo told a reporter after the game, "It was the wrong decision, and I think anybody that knows anything about the game knows that. There's no doubt in my mind I would have made those saves. And the fact of the matter is it's not 2004 anymore. It's not 2004. And it's 2007, and I think you have to live in the present. And you can't live by big names. You can't live in the past. It doesn't matter what somebody did in an Olympic gold medal game in the Olympics three years ago. Now is what matters, and that's what I think." Most people only quote the first two sentences, but she's referencing 2004 because Ryan supposedly attributed Scurry's start to her strong performance in the 2004 Olympics.
My take: I agree with what Solo said. I was never a fan of Ryan and while I appreciated Scurry's tremendous career, I didn't think there was a need to change what wasn't broken. At the same time, I don't think it was the time to say it. I also don't think she should have even been accessible to reporters. As someone in PR, I don't think we're supposed to blame our own, so I'm not blaming anyone, but I think you need to know your personnel and the circumstances. It was obviously a volatile situation, but I think you have to know Hope would speak her mind so if you don't want to hear it, avoid putting her in that situation (this was also pre-twitter so there was more control).
Ironically enough Scurry was an alternate on the 2008 Olympic team when Solo posted a shutout in the gold medal game over Brazil. The 2011 World Cup was without a ton of controversy. The team lost and some have been critical of Solo's time spent with her family in the stands rather than congregating with the team, but I don't really care. It's hard to want to be around your team after a loss. She didn't ostracize her teammates (as far as I know) and she went and thanked her family. Not a big deal... to me.
Leading up to the 2012 Olympics, the USADA issued a public warning against Solo for taking a banned substance. It was a diuretic... not a performance enhancer and they figured out it was from a prescribed medication for "premenstrual purposes." Other than the public warning, there weren't any other penalties issued.
My take: Not a big deal. Some people have criticized her for being a distraction to the team before the tournament and suggesting she should have done a better job knowing what she was taking. I think athletes do have the responsibility of checking any medication to make sure it isn't banned. I don't know whether Solo didn't check or just assumed it would be fine, but I don't think she was trying to disguise anything else with the diuretic and I don't think she was trying to bring attention to herself or be a distraction. She was publicly warned and had to tell everyone she was on premenstrual medication. Not the most embarrassing thing (there are tons of women taking birth control or some kind of medication for premenstrual purposes), but also not anything to brag about. In a bonus chapter of her book available online, Solo said, "Still, the burden of proof fell on me. Part of being a world-class athlete is keeping aware of everything that enters one’s body. I understood I needed to file a TUE—a therapeutic use exemption. I knew all the rules; I just hadn’t known there was anything in the drug that I needed to worry about. I couldn’t believe that my Olympic dreams could be ruined because of a medication I’d been taking for more than a year." She also mentions in the book the last athlete who tested positive for the drug was banned for two months. There's no way Solo does this on purpose or to bring attention to herself. Too dangerous.
After the second game of the tournament, Solo fired off some tweets directed to Brandi Chastain regarding her commentating. Solo was criticized for sparking controversy, serving as another distraction and heaven forbid, criticizing a '99 hero.
My take: You can read Solo's version in the bonus chapter, but I think the tweets were taken out of context. Solo and Chastain had a history and Solo had enough. I think she even felt like she was sticking up for her team, for the sport and even said, "When the tweets came across everyone’s Twitter feed, the bus erupted with cheers. 'Hell yeah, Hope,' my teammates cried. Pearcie and Abby and others offered up high fives. 'Somebody finally said it,' they said. It was a bonding moment for our team." I agree with Solo, Chastain is not a good commentator. I don't think it has anything to do with whether she's a '99er or not. I'm pretty critical of women's soccer commentators in general. I know sometimes executives think it's best to rely on a big name rather than big talent especially having worked with Anson Dorrance when he was broadcasting for the WUSA. Again, I question Solo's timing on the tweets, but after getting on the bus after a big win and getting an "onslaught" of negative feedback I can understand how she thought she was standing up for her team and the game. Those who had blown up Solo's phone (friends, family, twitter groupies) all applauded Solo's confrontation (can you call it a confrontation if it's on twitter?). Regardless, I don't think it was Solo trying to be a distraction. I think she thought she was standing up to the class bully (unfounded or not)... I can appreciate her intentions.
Since the Olympics Solo's been making public appearances and people will continue to critique her words and actions. I think that comes with the territory when you're on national tv and publish a tell-all book. I don't think Solo thrives in the public eye and she's more comfortable with her friends and around people she trusts. I know many are tired of people using the "troubled upbringing" as an excuse for crappy things. I don't think Solo would ever use it as an excuse, but I think she does tend to defend herself easily and question others easily and for that I'm not sure I can blame her.
My graduate degree would call me to question the treatment of Solo as a female compared to her male counterparts. Would anyone care if a male athlete had complained about getting benched in one of the biggest games of his career or tweeted to a commentator about a poor performance? I think it would make the news and I think people would either laugh at the guy (because he's not respected in his sport) or applaud him (because they would agree). Regardless, I don't think Solo's press persona should take away from her abilities on the field. She truly is an amazing goalkeeper and in 4-8 years someone else might be ready for her to be benched, but for now... play on!
Wednesday, August 29, 2012
accountability...
I'm a huge fan of accountability. I'm not sure I'd qualify as an expert and I'm not sure I even have any perfect examples of structured accountability in my own life, but I'm a big promoter.
I believe it is crucial to surround yourself with people who will encourage you and set you straight... sometimes in the same sentence. I'm guessing one of the more popular scriptures used for accountability is from Galatians 6, but I stumbled onto a reminder in 1 Thessalonians 5 I like. Verses 14-22: "And we urge you, brothers and sisters, warn those who are idle and disruptive, encourage the disheartened, help the weak, be patient with everyone. Make sure that nobody pays back wrong for wrong, but always strive to do what is good for each other and for everyone else. Rejoice always, pray continually, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus. Do not quench the Spirit. Do not treat prophecies with contempt but test them all; hold on to what is good, reject every kind of evil."
I think this is one of those passages that can be misused. The first part of verse 14 alone could have a bunch of busybodies running around warning all of the lazy crew how they're sinning. Instead, Paul goes on with more instructions that make the job a little more delicate. We're to warn, encourage, help and be patient all in one sentence. I think that's the epitome of accountability without ever saying the word.
I'm not sure what accountability looks like in the best case scenario. I don't have a weekly confession session with a friend over coffee while we pray for each other (I am a fan of praying for my friends even when it weirds them out :). I'm sure that works for some people, and maybe I should give it a fair shot... but in the meantime I have tried to surround myself with people I trust will tell me the truth. I want people who can warn, encourage, help and be patient all at the same time. I don't really need friends who are just there to agree with me. I want people who will challenge me.
I'm not sure it's "natural" to tell your friend he/she is screwing up. And I really don't think it's "natural" to smile and take it when your friend tells you you're screwing up. It takes a special friendship to reach a point where you can give and take criticism and know it's coming from a good place. At the same time, I think we're called to something more than just being teammates or gossip buddies. I think God has called us to something more than, "he/she's not hurting me so we're good." I want it to hurt me when my friend is hurting someone else or himself/herself.
My favorite technique... ask questions. We're all less threatened by questions as opposed to a critical observation. Give me a chance to figure out what I'm screwing up before you lambast me for it. A question lets me process it and ask for your opinion when I'm ready. Don't get me wrong... sometimes people are still oblivious and you have to spell it out... or sometimes you still hit a nerve that makes people defensive or bitter. Regardless... keep praying and work on those other hints... encourage, help and be patient when the warning doesn't go so well. It's a package deal.
Sunday, August 5, 2012
landmark eve...
Tomorrow's the big day. I'm set to embark on a new career... or maybe an extension of my career. This entire summer has felt like I've been getting reacquainted with being uncomfortable. I had to brush off the dust of my resume... stuttered through some interviews... and tomorrow get to experience a "first day of work"for the first time in six years.
There's something unsettling about putting yourself out there... listing everything you've done on a sheet of paper (or more depending on which job search advice you take) and letting people evaluate you. If you're fortunate enough to get a response, you try to prepare for any number of questions during a series of interviews. At the same time they're interviewing you, you're interviewing them and everyone is trying to size the other up to see if this is a good fit. There is a huge sense of relief and excitement once everyone decides they like each another to hire and be hired. And then you actually go to work.
Since accepting the new job, I've had a ton of questions about it. What are you going to be doing? What are your hours like? Is it like what you were doing? What were you doing again? I don't know all of the answers... or it seems at least I can't answer them well enough. I have a general idea... I've worked with someone who has done my job. In reality, I'm resting in the faith the search committee has placed in me to do the job. I'm sure there will be plenty of awkward or at least uncomfortable moments as I have to ask stupid rookie questions or work twice as long to complete something that will hopefully be quicker in a year. I've resigned myself to the fact I will make mistakes... but I'm also confident my years of experience in mistake-making have prepared me to fix them efficiently and without too much destruction!
I had a busy (and sometimes stressful) month transitioning and I'm not naive enough to think the transition is over, but I am anxious to get started on this new adventure. Here goes something more than nothing but not quite everything!
Tuesday, July 31, 2012
turning 30...
During the summer of 2012 I have managed to get a new job, a boyfriend and.... gasp... turn 30. I've seen some friends really struggle with 30 and I was determined not to join them. In reality, we're getting older every day and we've created these societal expectations and media pressure that have determined who we should be when we turn 30. I think if you had asked me 15 years ago... probably even 10 years ago where I would be when I turned 30, I would have told you I'd be married with a kid or two while balancing some amazing career. Of course I also thought I'd meet my husband in college. I probably struggled more graduating college and not being any closer to mastering my love life than I did this year. At the same time I was cognizant of this milestone approaching and trying to figure out what I was doing with my life.
I've tried to balance these feelings of content and panic all summer. Change is never easy... at least not for me and I am usually a big long-term planner. In May I typically know what the next 7-8 months will look like. During this May I had no idea what I would be doing in June let alone December or January. I over think things and analyze every possible scenario and this summer I've been challenged to just take it one day at a time while still checking my direction. We can't let the unknown of next week paralyze us, but I also don't think we should keep our head down so much that we end up falling off the track.
I'm confident God spends time convincing me to really be satisfied in Him alone and sometimes that means holding back some of this stuff I think I need. I want to grateful for the Giver, not just the gifts. I'm grateful for the opportunity to see a couple of steps in front of me after a season of unknown as I turned 30. I was ready to move forward and I think it helped me conquer whatever expectations I have placed on myself for this particular time in my life.
At the same time, there is still what feels like an almost overwhelming sense of unknown. After an exhausting week with a move... I came to some sense of peace. I don't have all the answers, but I'm trying to live in this moment and be content... even at 30! The last month has been full of stress, change and sleepless nights... but tonight I am grateful. I am so thankful God always knows better than I do... His timing is better than mine. Here's to embracing unsettledness!
Monday, July 23, 2012
just a see you later...
I have always tried to remind God I’m not a very good
decision maker. I consistently ask him to close the doors I shouldn’t walk
through and open the ones I should enter. I'm trusting Him as I close one door and open another at the Landmark Conference. I always knew leaving Methodist would never be easy and I'm dreading all of the goodbyes. At the same time, I have a peace about my decision and I'm super excited about a new job. It's bittersweet as I have a ton of people I'm going to miss and yet I'm returning to friends and family in Maryland I have been missing for the last six years.
How do you put six years into words? Six years ago I came to
Methodist slightly naïve, but still completely thrilled to have a fresh start
and a job that allowed me to not only return to my alma mater, but to actually
use my degrees! Six years later I’m beyond blessed to have grown both
professionally and personally in ways I could have never imagined. I could
recant a list of things I’ve learned to do as a sports information director and
assistant athletic director, but it always seems to come back to the people
more than the things.
I knew I was at the right place within my first three months
when I had the pleasure of accompanying the women’s soccer team to the NCAA
Tournament. The Methodist women's soccer team was a national championship contender in the mid 1990s, but returned to the "big dance" for the first time in 11 years in 2006. I had dreamt of reaching the tournament when I was a student-athlete so watching as a member of the travel party (twice) was a
close second.
For nearly three years I was able to watch my sister play
lacrosse. I watched her fall in love with her husband, shared my house with her and I am confident God
meant for us to be here together for those years.
I made friends and I lost friends, but I don’t regret any of
them. I've dated and I've experienced break ups and I only regret a couple. Just
kidding. I don’t regret any of the experiences and lessons learned from each
and every relationship.
For most of my time back, my cousin and her family have
lived less than 10 minutes away and I have loved having family here. Her kids
have kept me laughing and I will miss them dearly.
I have worked with a ton of amazing people both at Methodist
and throughout my travels amongst other colleges and universities. Sometimes it
was a phone call at just the right time or maybe it was filling in at the table or the press box when I was in a jam or even pulling me away from work when I felt like I was
drowning. Regardless… I am grateful.
One of my favorite things about Methodist will always be
FCA. The speakers have blessed me, but I have been even more blessed by the
students I have met there. I know it won’t be the same without having an office
on campus with a semi-cozy couch, but I pray I might still be able to encourage
the students and somehow make a difference in someone’s life.
I suppose it all boils down to… Thank you! To everyone I
have met, worked with, hung out with… you have made the six years worth every
minute. I am grateful for the experience and pray I might have left just a
piece of the impact on you that you have left on me. I'm not saying goodbye... just see you later.
"I always thank my God as I remember you in my prayers, because
I hear about your love for all his holy people and your faith in the Lord
Jesus. I pray that your partnership with us in the faith may be effective in
deepening your understanding of every good thing we share for the sake of
Christ. Your love has given me great joy and encouragement, because you,
brother, have refreshed the hearts of the Lord’s people." – Philemon 4-7
Tuesday, July 3, 2012
DVD clearance...
I'm in the process of cleaning out my collection of DVDs... I have collected 200 DVDs and took a ton of pride in a bunch of movies I keep listed in alphabetical order and usually only watch once. It's time to clean house and I'm selling some of them. I could use amazon or ebay, but thought I'd cut out the middle man first and see if any of my friends would want any. Anything made 2003 or later is $5 and anything earlier is $4. If you're not local, we can discuss shipping. Please let me know if you're interested and we can work out the details.
| 17 Again | 2009 | ||
| 50 First Dates | 2004 | ||
| American Dreamz | 2006 | ||
| Antwone Fisher | 2002 | ||
| Aurora Borealis | 2005 | ||
| Backup Plan | 2010 | ||
| Because I Said So | 2007 | ||
| Best Laid Plans | The Edge | Kiss of Death | 1999 | 1997 | 1995 |
| Birdie & Bogey | 2004 | ||
| Blood Diamond | 2006 | ||
| Bobby | 2006 | ||
| Brave One | 2007 | ||
| Break-Up | 2006 | ||
| Brothers | 2009 | ||
| Chariots of Fire | 1981 | ||
| Charlie Wilson's War | 2007 | ||
| Closer | 2004 | ||
| Collateral | 2004 | ||
| Come Early Morning | 2006 | ||
| Confessions of a Dangerous Mind | 2002 | ||
| Conspiracy Theory | 1997 | ||
| Courage Under Fire | 1996 | ||
| Curious Case of Benjamin Button | 2008 | ||
| December Boys | 2007 | ||
| Definitely, Maybe | 2008 | ||
| Devil Wears Prada | 2006 | ||
| Dreamer | 2005 | ||
| Duplicity | 2009 | ||
| Dying Young | 1991 | ||
| Elizabethtown | 2005 | ||
| Emperor's Club | 2002 | ||
| Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind | 2004 | ||
| Everyone Says I Love You | 1996 | ||
| Family Stone | 2005 | ||
| Firm | 1993 | ||
| Flags of Our Fathers | 2006 | ||
| Flatliners | 1990 | ||
| Four Christmases | 2008 | ||
| Fracture | 2007 | ||
| Full Frontal | 2002 | ||
| Ghosts of Girlfriends Past | 2009 | ||
| Grace is Gone | 2007 | ||
| Gracie | 2007 | ||
| Grand Champion | 2002 | ||
| Greatest | 2009 | ||
| Hardball | 2001 | ||
| Heartbreak Kid | 2007 | ||
| High Crimes | 2002 | ||
| Higher Learning | 1995 | ||
| Hotel Rwanda | 2004 | ||
| How to Deal | 2003 | ||
| I Love Trouble | 1994 | ||
| In Good Company | 2004 | ||
| In Love and War | 1996 | ||
| Inception | 2010 | ||
| Inside Man | 2006 | ||
| Joe Somebody | 2001 | ||
| Just Friends | 2005 | ||
| Last Kiss | 2006 | ||
| Leap Year | 2010 | ||
| Legendary | 2010 | ||
| Letters to God | 2010 | ||
| List | 2007 | ||
| Maid in Manhattan | 2002 | ||
| Mary Reilly | 1996 | ||
| Meet the Browns | 2008 | ||
| Men of Honor | 2000 | ||
| Mexican | 2001 | ||
| Michael Collins | 1996 | ||
| Mighty Heart | 2007 | ||
| Miss Congeniality 2 | 2005 | ||
| Mona Lisa Smile | 2003 | ||
| Monster | 2003 | ||
| Monster-in-Law | 2005 | ||
| Murder by Numbers | 2002 | ||
| Mystic River | 2003 | ||
| Player | 1992 | ||
| Poseidon Adventure | 1972 | ||
| Precious | 2009 | ||
| Ready to Wear | 1994 | ||
| Rebound | 1996 | ||
| Reggie's Prayer | 1996 | ||
| Reign Over Me | 2007 | ||
| Rendition | 2007 | ||
| Reservation Road | 2007 | ||
| Room to Move | 1987 | ||
| Rumor Has It | 2005 | ||
| Satisfaction | 1988 | ||
| School Ties | 1992 | ||
| Siege | 1998 | ||
| Sleepers | 1996 | ||
| Sleeping With the Enemy | 1991 | ||
| Something to Talk About | 1995 | ||
| Something's Gotta Give | 2003 | ||
| Stand By Me | 1986 | ||
| State of Play | 2009 | ||
| Sydney White | 2007 | ||
| There Will Be Blood | 2007 | ||
| This Christmas | 2007 | ||
| Though None Go With Me | 2006 | ||
| Time Traveler's Wife | 2009 | ||
| Two Weeks Notice | 2002 | ||
| Ugly Truth | 2009 | ||
| Untraceable | 2008 | ||
| Up in the Air | 2009 | ||
| Vanity Fair | 2004 | ||
| Walk the Line | 2005 | ||
| Wedding Date | 2005 | ||
| Wedding Planner | 2001 | ||
| While You Were Sleeping | 1995 | ||
| You, Me and Dupree | 2006 |
Monday, July 2, 2012
laugh of the week...
Based on my post stats, my laugh of the week posts are struggling in popularity, but I think I've realized they're more for me than any kind of audience. Sometimes things can get too stressful or too serious and I just need a laugh.
I recently watched Lisa Ling's special on the teen pregnancy "epidemic" covered on "Our America" so this seemed timely. I'm a huge proponent of abstinence, but I also believe in education. One of the girls featured on "Our America" had two children as a teen and had refused birth control because her friends told her it would make her fat. One of my friends stated the obvious in reminding the girl you gain weight in pregnancy too! Either way... there are a lot of mixed messages and crazy myths out there that need debunking!
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